July: Love & Sex Month
It’s a new month in Cultivate Club!
This month we’re examining our relationship with Love & Sex.
Look for the ✔️ which notes action items to take for the New Month!
“Instead of looking to the other to meet your needs, if you want to reignite your love life, you must take on the responsibility of your own desire.”
― Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
Celebrate!
This step is critical.
✔️ Take the time to celebrate the past month and record your wins and lessons learned.
✔️ Scroll back through your photo gallery. Do you have a photo from your Solo Date? Or Self-Care Experiment? Or perhaps a photo from a moment that represents a shift you’re seeing?
(Now’s also great time to delete any random screenshots or duplicate photos to keep your photo stream manageable!)
Contemplate.
✔️ Download a fresh Monthly Planning Worksheet and start planning the month ahead with a focus on this month's theme: Love & Sex.
When considering your relationship with your Love & Sex, what do you need to clear? What do you want to cultivate?
Here are some ideas:
Cultivation Mantras
“I am responsible for my own energy. I am responsible for turning myself on.”
“I experience pleasure. I revel in pleasure. I deserve pleasure.”
(Inspired by The Principles of Pleasure on Netflix)“I have a sense of autonomy.”
(Inspired by “It’s hard to feel attracted to someone who has abandoned her sense of autonomy” from Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity)
Boundary Mantras
“I define and articulate what sexual/sensual/erotic activities I engage in.”
“My bed is a sacred space. I only allow sleep, connection, and pleasure.”
Decluttering Categories
Underwear drawer/lingerie
Nightstands beside the bed
Solo Dates
Four Course Meal for One
Spend an evening alone (perhaps in a hotel?), dancing and moving in a way that feels exciting to you.
Create a Yes/No/Maybe list for yourself to explore which sexual activities you enjoy and which you are curious about.
Self-Care Experiments
Send a message of love and appreciation to someone every morning.
Make a list of ways you experience love (a note, fresh flowers, a treat) and give yourself one thing from the list every day.
Expand your “weird”. What is something you do or something you love that is unique to you? How do you do more of that thing? How can you expand it? Embrace it? Celebrate it?
Connect.
In Cultivate Club, our small groups meet every other week as a primary point of connection for our members while they are on their journey, but you can also build your own community for connection!
What does that look like for you? Perhaps a coffee date or a zoom call after the kids’ bedtime with a long-time friend. Or maybe it’s couple people in your living room once per month for “real talk, real sharing”.
Enrollment in Cultivate Club opens once per year in October.
You’re always welcome to request a Guest Pass for one of our monthly Guest Experts, viewable on our events page!
💜 Wishing you continued cultivation this Love & Sex Month.